Whether you are starting your own business, taking on a new leadership role in your career, or simply looking for better, more effective ways to lead a conscious life, improved emotional intelligence is key. Why? Essentially, if you want to embrace the paradigm shift that’s taking place all over the world right now, you must understand the connections you have with the people you work with and with the world around you. If you want to take your career and your life to new levels, you need to truly understand your emotions and the emotions that drive your interactions with others.

Defining Emotional Intelligence

So what is emotional intelligence? And how does it relate to conscious leadership? Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0, identified five domains of emotional intelligence:

  1. Knowing your emotions.
  2. Managing your own emotions.
  3. Motivating yourself.
  4. Recognizing and understanding other people’s emotions.
  5. Managing relationships.


Psychology Today defines emotional intelligence as, “The ability to understand, manage, and effectively express one’s own feelings, as well as engage and navigate successfully with those of others.”

Those who have high emotional intelligence are able to tune in to the emotions they’re feeling in any given situation, read those emotions, and understand how to use them to drive more positive interactions. Emotional intelligence is not necessarily a means to “control” your emotions; rather, it’s a means to be so in touch with them that you can regulate and redirect negative emotions and embrace positive ones.


Reducing Negativity in Your Thoughts and Interactions

For example, think of a situation in which you felt negatively about the way someone else was behaving. Did you take their behavior personally? And did you find yourself judging that person? If so, you’re not alone, but you weren’t using your emotional intelligence to improve the situation. Using emotional intelligence, you would avoid personalizing the other person’s actions and reduce your own negative thoughts.

How do you feel if you call someone to discuss something that’s important to you, and they don’t call you back? Do you immediately think, “They didn’t call me back because they were ignoring me,” or, “My issue isn’t important to them”? Instead, shift the paradigm in your own mind and take yourself out of the equation. It’s just as likely that they haven’t called you back because they want to wait until they have enough time to devote to a quality conversation.

If you practice emotional intelligence, you can almost immediately stop blaming, judging, and thinking negatively of others, even when their behavior isn’t perfect. This will allow you to be a better conscious leader and have more positive interactions with your colleagues, employees, and friends.


Emotional Intelligence in Leadership

In addition to reducing negativity and handling interactions in a more positive manner, the conscious leader who employs emotional intelligence will also:

  • Stay calm in stressful situations
  • Be proactive when confronting difficult people and/or situations
  • Express complicated emotions in a positive manner
  • Exhibit resilience in the face of adversity

By letting go of negative thoughts, learning not to take others’ actions personally, and knowing how to gauge your own emotions, you can lead by example and guide even the most delicate situations and interactions.

At Paradigm Shifters, we specialize in helping people improve their emotional intelligence to become better conscious leaders. For more information on our coaching methods and how we can help you achieve your goals, call us today at (+1) 415-702-0334. Or you can fill out our online contact form at your convenience, and one of our team members will be in touch with you presently.


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